"A friend remembers your name and who you are, even when you can't." JAM
Friendships forge in many ways these days from connecting on Facebook to other social or game sites. From there, these relationships can flourish to become something more meaningful, even long-lasting.
Others, like blog readers are here one day and gone the next. Myself included. I find blogs I love, subscribe and then need days of time to catch up on all of them. I am really not ignoring you or avoiding your pages even if it appears that way. It’s hard to keep up with all the great writers on here and that’s the bottom line. But I do consider you friends because you share yourself with all of us here so openly.
Meeting on the internet is similar to having a pen pal as my mother did for many years when she was a young woman. When the pair finally met, they were both overcome with the joyful emotion of long-lost friends. By then, they each knew everything there was to know about the other, family strife, husbands, raising children, work, home, you name it. They just needed to physically connect.
My friendships over the years have altered with time. It was curious when my husband and I parted because some friendships fell away altogether. Not being part of a couple meant I could no longer even out the dinner table numbers, I suppose. It also meant those weren’t very good friends in the first place.
Some friendships formed in courses or mutual interests and when those were done, so were the friendships because the camaraderie changed, something was missing and they simply weren’t worth maintaining.
Other friendships just naturally grew stronger regardless of where we met. But even that doesn’t mean much at the end of the day. These same long time friends can vanish as readily as the curious online looky-loo, depending on why they were in your life in the first place.
Hopefully, it will be as with the majority of my long time friends, some since the age of 17, who have a genuine interest in me and my world, an expression of value by spending time together, whatever the form may be. An online chat, a phone call or a walk by the sea. It’s all friendship and it’s all bonding.
Friends may grow with us over the years, evolving right alongside us while others may remain as they were the first day we met them. Others fall away like a season past, never to be revived again. There are friends in my world I may not see for some time due to our individual life commitments but when we do reconnect, it’s just like yesterday, as if no time had passed at all. The connection of human souls doesn’t need a prescribed form to follow, it’s as individual as the friends forging the bond.
Even here on WordPress.com, I have forged friendships where I am continually learning from some people, laughing uproariously with/at others, journeying on a spiritual path with like-minded souls, having fun with the fabulous things in life from fashion to writing and there is certainly no formula. These people are from varied age groups, cultural backgrounds and lifestyles, yet something in us connects as fastly as if we once shared the same embryonic sac.
We have no expectations because we know, simply know what our relationship is about, sometimes before much is said at all. Sometimes I read their thoughts or writings and wonder how they managed to climb inside my head and say it all so much better than I ever could have. Some of my online friends have a direct path to my heart that the real world friends simply miss out on altogether. Perhaps the conduit is the literary connection of the writing. I’m not sure.
What I am sure of is that my real world and online world of friends is as diverse as each beautiful, colourful and artsy individual I have had the pleasure of meeting and knowing better as we go along living our respective lives around the world. I love you all and thank you for being my friend, whether forever or for now, I walk in humble gratitude for your friendship :)
What is a friend to you?