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JAMISM: "Once one has had their fill of eating crow, they will no longer assume anything about anyone or anything. Those sharp beaks are just too hard to swallow." LOL ....... Image by crowdive via Flickr
In 1989-1990 I took a Public Relations course that was very brief but some of the teachings have stayed with me to this day.
Including the way the facilitator broke down the word: ASSUME just as I did in the title here. Ms. Lemon, I believe her name was and she was a superb instructor for the messages she was trying to convey. We got it in spades.
Anytime we assume in life, we make an Ass of ourselves and the person we are assuming something about. What is the alternative? Well, it’s really very simple. Assume NOTHING. Instead:
ASK Questions!
That is all.
Too simple, huh.
Why is it we humans tend to avoid the simple road and complicate our lives or those of others in choosing to do so? Why, when it is so easy to simply ask instead of assume?
Ooops, my eternal why’s are slipping again, I better go pull them up under my skirt before I get lost in hours of useless wondering, LOL I fear I shall soon become the Queen of WHY and have to change my whole profile on here if this persists… lol
My policy, never ask – always assume. I love the picture, I thought it was going to be about “The Raven.”
In some way it is, LOL. Because that did cross my mind as did Crow/ Raven Medicine (though I know they are not always used interchangably). Thanks for swinging by
Janice you’ll have to go a long way to wrest the title of Chief Socratic Questioner from yours truly!
M
Ah, Marie, what a relief that is to know! I’ll just graciously award you the Crown and try to keep up, lol. Honoured to have a mind like yours as Chief of anything
Still enjoying your poetry. Thanks again for that lovely gift and for visiting my pages tonight.
Janice
The latter is a pleasure. M
I didn’t know what was going on at the beginning but I loved the conclusion. Always better t ask than presume. The answers may well surprise you
No kidding, Ducky. Lots of surprising answers, if we ask the right questions
Ha! so true. Hadn’t seen that before.
A lot of people already know about it but I love it so much I still share. If only I could master it, lol. Alas, being human… does have challenges lol. Thanks for visiting! Glad you like.
I used to work for the welfare department, and I’d read an outline of each situation before meeting the family. reading the outline, i’d start making assumptions and then when i met the family, i would find that my assumptions were always wrong. maybe i’m just a bad assumer.
LOL LOL love that phrase “bad assumer,” you are funny. Perhaps unintentionally but it hit my funny bone. Thanks for the visit, haven’t seen you for a while
Totally agree. It’s better to be an “asker” instead of an “ass.” Great post crazy chick
Thanks, LFR!
One of the greatest advice of life
Sometimes I find it’s hard not to assume (got it from my mom 
) but I try to make an effort to change that… Thanks for sharing!
LOL That’s so funny, got it from my mom LOL Still working on it myself… I think that’s just human life, thanks for your comments
In the immortal words of Piglet, “Oh Dear, Oh, D-D-Dear Dear!” Janice, I’m afraid I made you fearful of the “Why-Word.” I’m sorry. That wasn’t my intention. Every word has its place–that’s why we have the word (and yes, I noticed the irony of my use of the word “why” in that sentence!).
For a while (and even sometimes now) I am the Princess of “Why Not?” Just live life and don’t censor yourself. That’s the best gift you can give yourself. And you deserve lots and lots of best gifts.
Love, love, love,
Lorna
No worries, Lorna, please, it’s just a joke between me myself and I whenever I think of your feedback on the question why but in a totally GOOD, FUN way, NOT and never was a negative, I’m always smiling when I say it, no harm was ever intended by me and I know for certain none was ever intended by you so please don’t worry. I love that you encourage me to never censor myself, that’s what I love about all the Crazy Chicks in our club. So please don’t worry, I am also a Queen of Why as much as Why Not but this piece has nothing to do with any of that so I hope you don’t think so, it was just what blew out of me after a lengthy discussion with a friend about how so many are so quick to assume and/or condemn without asking a single question. I think it’s part of the “drive-through” mentality of our society, people just can’t be bothered, it’s so much easier to “wrap it all up” assuming for themselves than to spend time or concern asking questions. Ask me anything you like and please, please, please always tell me anything you like, Princess Why Not, LOL Love, Light and Laughter from the Queen of Why and Why Not (maybe we can get a children’s book happening out of all these coronations, LOL)
Janice
That’s one of my favorite sayings…. I use it way too much!
That is great news because it is one of the few phrases in life that cannot suffer any over use whatsoever lol
Thanks for the visit, Pam 
You totally reminded me of my husband, a sailor (when I was 19), when he came home and told me of his instructor at the base telling them all that assuming makes an ASS out of U and ME. He thought it was soooooooooo clever – you made me smile to remember that
Nice to see you again and thank you for sharing that lovely story. It is an old phrase but timeworn I’m sure it will never be so in some way he is still right… lol. So glad I could give you a smile today, see you just as soon as I can to find out what you’ve been up to on your pages