Recently, a fellow writer (Tincup) posted a piece on his observations of the increasing failings of men (and women) to impress. It really had me thinking. It still does. I featured a link to that piece on my pages and much discussion took place following that which led me to writing this today. Brainiac, I may not be, but I do think and here are some of my thoughts on this matter.
Myself, not so much a golden age dreamer as I am a “here now” thinker in terms of watching an insidious wave of social illiteracy occurring. This, in my observation, is thanks to the proliferation of gadgetry and other “dehumanizing” possessions and obsessions that encourage alignment with the masses and physical alienation as opposed to distinction and actual connection. (Yes, she admits to using a machine to communicate this right now… alas, I admit it is a double-edged sword/pen I acquiesce to).
My observation is the explosion of communication via machines is rendering many robotic and we are fast losing our “human touch” in this drive-through mentality, instant gratification, disposable people, sense of entitlement thinking/living that not only encourages laziness as an acceptable lifestyle but actually results in a general frustration expressed as spontaneous rage or mobbing while wholly discouraging that anyone bother to even try harder. Only when required to, do we humans tend to “try harder.” Perhaps even to repaint the Sistine Chapel ceilings… as Dragonstrand mentioned in discussions.
Why is this happening? I believe it is because we are letting it. We have to stay connected to what matters, tossing even our penchant for analysis out the window because the last thing we need is more “analysis of analysis” of well documented ills whether organizational, governmental or society at large, all while fanning the embers of yet another inhumane act of insensitivity against another individual or group.
Not a bleeding heart here either, just saying what I see all too often in local, national and world news reports, nevermind the daily world around me. I do believe enough collective voices can result in not only impressive human beings once again but lasting world changes for the better.
While having dinner with friends last night in their home, I noted that there were four remote controls on the coffee table. Not only that, my friend held another in his hand. He was showing us pictures, movie clips, etc from his laptop on his ginormous screen TV. When he had to get up out of his easy chair, it was cause for moan and groan, laughingly of course, but it struck me that had something not gone wrong, he could well live in that chair save for eating and toileting himself.
He is a lovely fellow and his wife is adorable, too, but when we sat down to eat, I was shocked when she said, “I didn’t feel like cooking tonight.” What would possess someone to invite you for dinner and then make such an announcement just as you lifted your fork? It struck me as something I must remind myself never to say to a guest. Especially if I am, as she was, serving packaged pasta and sauce with a ready-made bread warmed in the oven. Now, I am not ungrateful for the meal, I loved it but it was a little hard to swallow. Have we really lost our manners to the point that we can treat others this way and if anything at all, from simply walking across the floor to the TV when a remote won’t work or boiling a five-minute pasta is so much trouble, it causes a lot of trouble in terms of stress or tension, what are we coming to as a people?
I sure hope the people who matter to me know I would be glad to get off the sofa and change the channel for them (if I watched enough TV to bother) or cook them something extravagant that took me more than five minutes. I’m trying to use what I see and apply it in my world so that the next time I have a chance to impress, I don’t fail myself or offend others.
We do have impressive folk among us and their numbers grow daily though some days it appears the opposite. I won’t bother naming all the lone soldiers I can think of who changed history/the world for the better. We all know their names by heart. I will say if history is any guide and does, indeed, repeat itself, we are just about due more heroes or heroines if only to prove that we are not only distinct from one another gender wise but, more importantly, collectively humane.
This may sound horrible but I hope I am dead before the differences between men and women become so blurred I no longer care. I don’t want to live in a world of “sameness” where distinctions of female and male are assimilated so effectively, we have nothing to long for or admire in the opposite sex.
If we bring it down to where this topic started, I agree with my friend. Given the huge numbers of people on the planet it appears there has been a decline in the numbers of impressively behaving men and women… But then I think that reflects the larger state of the world on the whole.
As much as we think we are actually “connecting” and staying “more” connected, many of us are actually participating in the most monumental “disconnect” of all time and this is bound to show up labelled as a male or female failing. Because it is. We are all only human. Ahhh, mother-lode progress… when will it ever end… advancing to “what” I wonder… yikes.
I know I digressed into other areas but this is a huge subject that could take the might of ages to address. Right now my might is fading so I am off to attend other things. Including being the best communicative, caring, warm, loving, feminine, female woman I know how – with the loudest voice I have, lol.
Reports of bloopers welcome, I am very tired, typing on a machine that is so slow, every click requires a “waiting period” grrrrr So if I did a mess of typos or forgot a word, etc. you’ll know why. Happy night, all. J