Violence against anything or anyone is cruel. I am against violence against women, men, children and animals. Violence may take many forms but it’s usually physical violence that is lethal.
However, I have heard men say such things as, “I did not realize that slamming a door or throwing something was violence” or “I didn’t know that every time I yelled it affected my wife and kids so much they were afraid of me.” Awareness is growing but it is slow going.
Last year after leaving a primarily mentally cruel and emotionally violent relationship of many years, I was kicked (considered a lethal offence in Canada) by my former bff who harmed my bladder. For a year following, I could not even sit without discomfort and bled for days after it first happened, me who had a complete hysterectomy Christmas 2007 and not much left except the bladder. It was her response to my verbal sobbing that I wanted her to leave my former home and that I would rather die than do what she has done to me: emotionally raped me and mentally violated me in ways that are as scarring as if she had cut me or shot me repetitively. You just never know who is capable of violence or what form they may choose to inflict it upon another for their own selfish agenda.
Violence takes so many forms world wide and is suffered/endured by men, women, children and animals daily. Let’s all yell and scream together FOREVER if we must to stop ALL of them. If you are experiencing violence of any sort, contact your local crisis line for resources. I did think of listing them here but cannot for all of North America. I have posted a terrific Canadian resource below but any readers please feel free to drop your resource links in a comment.
One of my friends in this blogging community, Kim Sisto-Robinson, lost her sister Kay to violence by Kay’s own husband who shot her.
Her site has a lot of great resources: http://myinnerchick.com/help-for-domestic-violence/
http://www.transition.ca has this on their pages (what I endured was all of those, some repeatedly)
“Under the Criminal Code of Canada, it is a crime to use force or threat of force against another person or that person’s property without her consent. The crime is called assault and there are three types:
- The touching, slapping, kicking and pushing of another person without consent
- Assault committed with the use or threatened use of a weapon
- Aggravated assault occurs when the victim is wounded or when the life of the victim is placed in danger.
The following examples of wife abuse would come under the assault provisions of the Criminal Code or other laws such as those relating to harassment or destruction of property.
PHYSICAL ABUSE: Slapping, punching, kicking and shoving; using objects such as a belt buckle to beat the victim; use of guns, knives to hurt or kill. It might start with slapping and proceed to use of weapons.
SEXUAL ABUSE: Inflicting pain and injury during forced sexual activities. A 1983 Canadian law makes it a crime for a man to sexually assault his wife or partner.
PSYCHOLOGICAL/ EMOTIONAL ABUSE: Violent threats against the victim and her family and /or children, such as, “If you try to leave, I’ll find you and kill you and then I’ll kill myself’.
ECONOMIC ABUSE: Destruction of her property – photo albums, clothes, family heirlooms and pets. This kind of abuse is also psychological; often the intent is to give the message, “Do what you’re told or the next time it will be you, not your dress!” “
My friend Jen at http://www.myraysoflight.com/My_Rays_of_Light_Book.php says it best:
“I am against violence against women
I am against violence against children
I am against violence against men
I am against violence against animals
Am I just a dreamer?
Or are we all just USED TO LIVING IN A NIGHTMARE??”
This year as the countdown to Christmas is upon us, I hope we are all cognizant of changing the world for the better, “one heart at a time.”
JAM (c) 6Dec2012
- Michelle Bachelet: International Day to End Violence against Women (November 25, 2012) (unitednationsdelegate.com)
- Violence against women, children in Davao City up (mindanews.com)
- March against violence (fijitimes.com)
- Say No to Physical Abuse (marvaseaton.wordpress.com)
- Wichita Women’s Shelter Sees Rise In Domestic Violence Victims (kake.com)
- Women protest in Ibadan; decry violence against women, children (vanguardngr.com)
- Food for the Hungry Ending Violence Where Men and Women Believe Wife Beating is OK (prweb.com)