Internet “Connection” Threat

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What would we do without our computers?

I want just one weekend FREE of all gadgets, computers and phones.

Just one weekend, Gods and Angels that be. No computers. No tablets. No cell phones. Ereaders that cannot get online. Period.

Yesterday I cartoonized my profile photo on Facebook just for the fun of it.

A man (person, woman, we’ll never know for sure) wrote to me telling me how beautiful I am and how much he wants to get to know more about me and could I please send him my email address so that we can continue to get to know one another.

I was a CARTOON bobblyhead thingy!  Just like Rob Ford (without all the drugs and bad choices he keeps saying he moved on from – what about everyone else – collective mind wipe? Could work. But I doubt it).

Is this what not having any other ‘easy’ arm chair form of entertainment has done to us?

Relegated us to sofas and armchairs that glue our butts so fastly we don’t need to get up and go out and do anything in fresh air ever again or go socialize just for the sake of seeing a REAL LIFE friendly face…

Strangers so desperate for communication they use people online for their sheer entertainment tittilation, sexual or otherwise scamming just because they have nothing better to do?

Are they even aware that not every face on the internet is who they “appear” to be?

An online “presence” is not worth much in my world. It is, in fact, a whole other world. One we must often join in just to survive.

Neighborhoods fall as silent as I do in dismay at the prospect of MORE of this. 

More streets silenced as children stay inside to “play” online.

More children alienated in their own homes by parents who provide every machine or gadget under the sun without actual parenting.

More adults addicted in droves to the “online thrills” of chatting with people who don’t know they don’t even look like the photos they put up.

Sexy woman? Might be a man. Was, in fact, in case of  a horrified male friend.

Sexy guy? Might be a woman spinning a scammer tale from a faraway country…

If it actually IS the man or woman in the picture…well… what is he or she doing online so much if he or she is REALLY that great of a catch?

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(Insert human telling on self with own CHOSEN behaviors  - ugliness to behold, NOT attractive, very unattractive and rude to watch, really.)

Survival is just not looking that attractive right now.

Survival of the fittest is almost a joke with more and more of us growing more unfit by virtue of the time invested in stillness to tend gadgets as though they are gardens constantly needing pruning, culling, perking, hoeing and poking.

A cabin in the forest, a cottage by the sea, a rural mountain home are all screaming my name as I write this on this machine.

Here. Where I wish I couldn’t be. You see the majority rules and the majority don’t want books anymore, they have Ereaders… if it’s not on the internet, did it really happen… or is it just another tree falling in the forest as corporations force us to go paperless or pay for our sins of wanting a paper bill to pay, file and have as record if we so desire… are we not “paying” enough already…

What if the whole world suddenly blacked out? Could you survive? Would you want to?

I believe I would and could. Much better than I am now. My life would be much more peaceful. I could relax without blaring TV, pinging computer or beeping phone dogging me, never letting me truly rest from the assault on my senses. And this is all unrelated to the fact that all over stimulation aggravates PTSD (a trauma syndrome I suffer since 2011).

Dreaming only of  being where there is wind, breeze, birds, no crowds, no gadgets, no sound, just quiet of nature indwelling your being with the calm, soulful restoration every human needs. 

If man gives his power and control so freely to machine that he becomes little more than Pavlov’s dog, there really isn’t much to go on for or look forward to… is there?

How I miss my humans.

(c) Aurora Morealist

REAL WORLD relationships destroyed for ONLINE thrills…

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When I heard of one marriage of 27 years ending due to online addiction, I was shocked that my friend’s husband could place more value in a “toy” than in her. By the time he decided to go for the help she wanted him to get, it was a year after the opening discussion and she had emotionally disconnected, no longer even wanted to try because she could never go forward without trust and she could no longer trust him.  They divorced. Two years later, lonely and distraught, he fell ill and died. Alone.

When I heard of another marriage hitting the skids for the same reason, I was stunned to think grown adults could make such asinine choices to harm their loved ones as this one affected the entire family.  He was an absentee father in every sense of the word with three kiddies and a wife who had learned to function without him. Until she, the wife, realized there was really no point having him in their world because he chose a “toy” over all of them and she was reduced to caring for what she viewed as “four children.” She is happily remarried, he is still alone, moving through relationships swiftly – none lasting more than a few months – as each new hopeful woman learns what his true M.O. is, they move on. Alone.

There are many women who grow addicted to the internet, too, I don’t deny that. All I know of up close and personal is these two situations. This much is too many to me. It also indicates there are many more out there I know nothing of who suffer due to online addiction.  What I cannot fathom and never will, is why? How can a “toy” sever such goodness with such finality? I’ll never grasp it and I don’t want to, really. It just truly saddens me.

I could go on about how the internet is rife with false images, in some cases even the sex of a person is inaccurately related so that you many not even be speaking with the gender you thought, let alone the person! (happened to a male friend of mine) Yet, people persist in these situations thinking themselves “in a relationship” when they really just need something to do with all their lonely hours.  At least that’s what I have seen apart from addiction, I mean. A lot of single people spend hours chatting/texting/sexting (sexting is a new term I just learned last week – it makes my eyes ache just to think what it means) and when they finally meet a good person in the real world, they are unable or unwilling to part with their patterns of behavior. It is not fair or kind or even remotely respectful to the party in real life.

There is more I could say, having been on many different dating sites for a couple of years, paid and unpaid, all the same. Lots and lots and lots of misleading photos, statements etc and very little, if any at all, genuine integrity. No wonder kids think it’s okay to go kill people. Or rapists think it’s okay to rape people. Or human traffickers think it’s okay to sell human beings. Or pedophiles think it’s okay to slobber over pictures of children. Our “de-humanization” as I see it, is well and truly in full swing. They aren’t really people are they, they are just part of a “toy” or machine or an online “role playing” game… where nobody really matters.

Gods and Angels that be, help us all. Amen.

Online relationships murder real life love! Yes or No?

Gadget craziness

Gadget craziness (Photo credit: XuRxO)

Is someone you love on their gadgets way too much? Do they text you and then appear to be texting more and yet you receive NOTHING?  Are they constantly checking and checking and checking for messages online? Do they close the computer when you walk into the room? Do they shift the screen quickly when you walk into the room? Do they shield the screen with their body or position themselves the computer faces them and you can only ever see the back of it? Do they brag about being online or sleeping with their computer next to them? Do they repeat same excuses (I was just typing a letter so that’s why it looked like I was typing or I accidentally hit a letter – ohyahsure -) to justify themselves and their UNATTRACTIVE CHOICES? Are you tired of asking them to be more “present” in the “real world” with you? Do they claim these are “relationships” and they had a “life” before you even though you see nothing but being plugged into gadgets gadgets gadgets ? If you ask what they are doing, do they answer you, openly or continue to ‘hide’ whatever it is, never really answering you at all? Do you wish all their gadgets would just blow up?  (in a good way for all concerned, of course).