Is someone you love on their gadgets way too much? Do they text you and then appear to be texting more and yet you receive NOTHING? Are they constantly checking and checking and checking for messages online? Do they close the computer when you walk into the room? Do they shift the screen quickly when you walk into the room? Do they shield the screen with their body or position themselves the computer faces them and you can only ever see the back of it? Do they brag about being online or sleeping with their computer next to them? Do they repeat same excuses (I was just typing a letter so that’s why it looked like I was typing or I accidentally hit a letter – ohyahsure -) to justify themselves and their UNATTRACTIVE CHOICES? Are you tired of asking them to be more “present” in the “real world” with you? Do they claim these are “relationships” and they had a “life” before you even though you see nothing but being plugged into gadgets gadgets gadgets ? If you ask what they are doing, do they answer you, openly or continue to ‘hide’ whatever it is, never really answering you at all? Do you wish all their gadgets would just blow up? (in a good way for all concerned, of course).
Having visited with friends/family for several days, I was packing to come home and began to feel lonesome before I left, kind of wistful that when I arrived I was so happy to share with them the news of my “new fellow.” But he was now old news (A 28-year-old young woman I once day-cared who now lives in Abbotsford, said, If this was the first two weeks with him, imagine the next 2 and the next 2 and the next 2, he will only get worse). Still, I was preparing for the return home with a much different sensation from the buoyancy I’d ridden out on.
Suddenly, my cell phone went off with the invitation to go to dinner and dancing. Yes, I said. No hesitation at all. It meant getting on the road pronto but it was all good. Now, bear in mind, the last thing I truly felt like was “making happy” but I know me. I have to push myself outside my comfort zones to get anywhere in life.
So there I was in beautiful sunshine by the ocean dining on seafood with someone who genuinely cares about me. (Not romantically…well, it is for him… just not for me… yet…maybe…someday.) We’ve been out dancing a few times over the past few months and we always meet the most astonishing people everywhere we go that I began to think we are both blessed by some magical force.
First there was an angelic young woman who began talking to me, she is studying in the U.S. and working here for the summer. Before we left the restaurant, she asked if she could hug me. It was one of the most healing hugs of my life. And then we learn that she is studying at a healing ministry, a school of the supernatural in California. Oh My. Floored.
Having studied hands-on, healing, aura reading, dream analysis and intuitive arts, I felt her gift of healing touch, she knows who she is and what she is here for, that is for certain. We are going to stay in contact because she blogs as well, is interested in romantic pairings and wants to know how things turn out between me and my date.
Then we go dancing and run into a woman who interviewed me in 2010 for a police support position. I made it through four levels only to be cut but we live in the same community so when I ran into her earlier this year, I asked why I was cut when I made such high scores. She said,”I knew the work would hurt you.” Fair enough. With 30 years in the field, she knows her business far better than I do.
But we started chatting, I even met a relative of hers once and I sent her a Thank you card for being so kind to me.
Had I not accepted the invitation to go dinner and dancing Saturday night I would not have crossed paths with her at all! Yet, she made certain to get my attention, thanked me for the card and asked how things were going. I told her I’m still with the temp agency but no solid leads yet.
She asked me if I’d be interested in another department and I said of course, that’s a job I could do. She laughed and said, No, you want to do, right? Yes, I said, but what I meant is I wouldn’t come unglued on you like you thought I might in the other position you interviewed me for and she laughed again.
So I have applied for another police support posting she feels more suited to me. I let her know I applied before she left on vacation. She then told she will “stay on it” when she returns and make sure the manager gets my application. I was flattered, flabbergasted and floating! I wrote back, “However it turns out, I want to express my gratitude for all your time and kindnesses. It means a great deal to me and I will never forget it.”
In the last week of June, I was re-applying at the library as they only hold résumés for four months. For some reason, the online application process would not work on my computer that day. So I wound up printing my CV out and delivering it in person. However, I spotted a workshop on the library web site while I was trying to renew my online application. Actually, it was an information session about paid classes for people who are at a turning point in their lives and need to reassess, re-evaluate and find work more suited to who they are.
I attended the session the next day which was Wednesday. On Thursday I was interviewed first thing in the morning. On Friday I was accepted. This week the classes started (on my sisters birthday:) and OH! What fabulous classes they are. I wish I could summarize all I am learning and discovering about myself and the world around me. But it would take pages.
Let’s just say I am now meeting wonderful new friends from many different cultures and backgrounds as diverse as military, nursing, a math teacher, a cook, an engineer/architect, moms, dads, students, recent immigrants and people in personal positions similar to my own. For lack of a better word to describe it, I am simply awed by the persevering qualities we all share. At this crossroads of our lives, this lovely group of human beings and I embark on the next chapter of our lives together. They are so inspiring to me, I just know we’re all going to land somewhere fantastic. Each and every single one of us unique men and women.
Imagine. All because I happened across a free information session while applying online to the library!
My cash flow has been steadily shrinking since I was laid off but I arrive home from my visiting in the valley to find an unexpected cheque from the government in my mail box. Apparently, I will be receiving this tax rebate quarterly. It all helps! A former writing instructor said everything to do with success as a writer is about timing. He’s probably right but I think every good thing in the world is about timing.
There is more to share but much of it wouldn’t mean as much to anyone else as it does to me. Many would probably say I assign too much value to simply having good events occur. But I see it all as little miracles. There are no coincidences in my world. These are just a few examples of the little and not so little magical experiences in my world… For now…
My friends tell me I deserve all the goodness and good people in my world but I am a little more humble about their presence. Especially the timeliness and synchronicity of certain events. Gifts, gifts, gifts. It all actually moves me so. In a very good way. So lucky…
My song for today, enjoy: